Thanks for the comments about keeping this blog alive. I definitely want to. And I even have some good ideas for it. But today, I got frustrated and depressed about my ability to do anything or get anything done with a baby.
Rhys is an awesome baby boy. He is so handsome, and really quite a good boy. But the one thing he doesn’t do is nap on his own. He simply won’t. So I either hold him while he naps or nap with him. (I usually choose to nap with him.)
My frustration comes about because this is what I do all day:
Rhys wakes up. I change his diaper, breastfeed him and then make a bottle. Then play with him for a little while. Then he gets cranky so I put him to sleep and we nap together. This pattern gets repeated all day long.
Where do I fit in all the other things I want and need to do? My house is a huge pile of crap, basically. I never feel like I have time to make meals, clean the house, or do anything I actually want to do. I don’t know how to remedy this. I’m surrounded by clutter and each day I just make it worse.
You know what I want this blog to be? About getting organized. About learning to eat healthy. About cool products for moms. About fun crafts and great Etsy shops. About books and writing and working from home. I even wanted to do some awesome giveaways.
I still do! But my question is WHEN? When does it get easier to have a baby so that I can accomplish something in a day (other than caring for a boy)? I think this blog could be pretty fun for me and possibly interesting to other people. (Possibly.) So I’m frustrated that I don’t see it happening any time soon.
I don’t know. For the moms and dads out there, how do YOU do it? How do you hold it all together?
And to leave it on a hopeful note, if I DO happen to find a way to make this blog a reality, I want to move it to its own domain. If I do that, what the heck should I call it? I would go with littlest bird, but littlestbird .com, .net, and .org are already taken. Boo!
The littlest bird name is from a song by the Be Good Tanyas that says, “the littlest birds sing the prettiest songs.” I chose that name because it says to me that even if you’re small and think there’s nothing unique about you, or think you’re not that special, think again! Littlest Bird means “hope” to me.
So…with that in mind, what’s your best idea for a new blog name? If I get no responses, I may have to hold a contest of some kind…
Thanks, readers!
I pretty much don’t accomplish anything major for the first year of a babies life. Now that Charlie had a birthday, I guess I should be doing more, right?
Be gentle with yourself. Motherhood is a very demanding job. Accomplishing even 1 thing, is huge. Celebrate your accomplishments! Yea for Holli!
Work on small routines. You know the french saying: Petite son petite, the bird makes her nest.
Take those small steps. Listen to some music you love. Enjoy your baby.
Alyn makes a very good point! You are already doing the most important thing you could be doing by loving and taking good care of Rhys. These days will never come again! Everything has its own season, and maybe this is not quite yet the time for you to devote too much time with a blog. But it will come soon. Very soon Rhys will be running around playing and entertaining himself and you will be able to accomplish more. And about the name, I LOVE Littlest Bird! You can’t change it! Why does it have to have its own domain??? And I always thought you named it that because you are the Littlest Bird in our family!
Holli, sorry I have no advice about parenting, but here is something I do occasionally: at the end of the day, write down 1 or 2 things that I did that I am proud of. Sometimes it helps me to see that even though I didn’t exercise, do the dishes, or clean the house like I planned to, I DID hold FHE or go grocery shopping, or read an article in the Ensign or remember to pray.
About your blog name, I also would be sad to see littlest bird go. Maybe you could keep the same idea by using “little bird” or “prettiest song” or “THE littlest bird” or “a little bird” or “one of the littlest birds” or something like that. littlest bird does seem to fit you in many ways.
Welcome to parenthood. Those kids are so demanding!
It doesn’t slow down — at least that’s been my experinece.
I’ll have to think about a new blog name….
Sorry to tell you this but parenting is ALWAYS hard. Yes, babies grow up but then it will be something else, potty-training or whatever, and the school years and the teen years and on and on. The only thing I would suggest is trying to relish the good things about each stage, other wise you will go crazy. My house is a big pile of crap too in case it makes you feel any better. Relish the cluttered house too! Haha. Make some time for yourself when you can. Those moments, or even an hour to myself completely rejuvinates me.